The Musician Mindset

Your attitude determines your altitude.

I’m Scared You Won’t Care About This Post

break from fearEvery time I click send or publish or call I pause and think “What the hell am I doing? Why on Earth would anyone want to read an email from me?” or “Why would this person want to talk to me?”

Self-doubt and fear are powerful. Honestly, sometimes they win and I talk myself out of whatever I was planning. But more often, I push through the negative-defeating talk and do it anyway. And then I’m surprised.

Recently I’ve gotten several such surprises. Jennine and I have been contacting other blogs in the music business niche about our House Concert eGuide. I’m glad Jennine is doing it, because each time she sends one out that thought flashes through my brain – “Why would this popular blogger want to hear from us?” But they do. They write back and it’s amazing the relationships we’re building by hitting send.

But I got a much bigger surprise in the past couple of weeks….

I wrote an email to share with someone about a video. I can remember sitting at the kitchen table one Saturday morning writing it. As usual I hesitated before I sent it. “Why would anyone care what I think about this video?”  But I swallowed and hit send anyway. Unbeknownst to me the person on the other end was about to be positively changed because of my email. I have since received several emails back telling me what a difference my email made in their life. I can’t share their story here in detail, but my email gave them hope at a time they most desperately needed it. I’m absolutely floored! And to think – I almost didn’t hit send.

Are you scared?

Musicians often struggle with fear and self-doubt. I’ve heard statements like “I don’t want to compromise my art.” or “I don’t want to sell-out and play that kind of music.” or “Nobody makes money in music.” What I hear is “I’m scared.”

  • I’m scared no one will like my music.
  • I’m scared people will make fun of me.
  • I’m scared that I don’t have the talent it takes to be a musician.
  • I’m scared to put myself out there because I might fail.
  • I’m scared my family is right.

I can relate. I’m scared every time I step out of my comfort zone. But like the popular quote says –

“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone”

Neale Donald Walsch

It’s true. So how can you push past the fear to take steps to get your music out to the world?

Why do you create?

The key to pushing yourself is to have a goal bigger than you. Jennine and I started Only Sky Artist because we believe in the power of music. (Read our bio to find out more) We know that hidden away in bars and basements across the country – and the world – are some insanely talented people. If we can give those people hope and skills to continue with what they do, the world will be a better place.

So, what’s your reason for making music? Why would you push yourself out of your comfort zone?

Some possible reasons might be:

  • the admiration of others
  • as therapy
  • the rush of adrenaline
  • to change the  lives of other people
  • to leave a legacy

Whatever your reason it’s up to you to push yourself to discomfort some days. You can only achieve your ultimate goal by challenging yourself to reach as many people as possible with your music. Sometimes you need to hit send.

What is your reason for creating music? Please share in the comments.






3 Ways To Deal With The Apathetic Silence Of YouTube

YouTube Video ViewsBack when I was in a band we practiced in my parents’ basement or garage. With Roger thumpin’ the bass and Bob pounding a drum, we got some attention! Other than the occasional police presence (for noise complaints) our fan reach was limited to about two blocks.

Of course, today with a simple video camera and a YouTube account your reach is MUCH further.

But do you sometimes still feel like you’re playing in the basement for no one? You’ve gone through all the trouble to set up a YouTube account and learn some basic video editing tricks to share your latest song. You primped your hair and put on your best shirt. Maybe you even practiced in front of the mirror before you hit record. Hey, there’s no shame in it!

But two weeks after hitting ‘upload’ you still only have 13 views. And 11 of them were you checking to make sure your video still plays! Where are all your fans? Why haven’t you gone viral?

Well the harsh truth is…

YouTube (and other social media for that matter) is filled with apathetic silence.

Most people wouldn’t  consider silence to be a critique. But as an artist you crave feedback. It’s hard to produce your art in a vacuum. But a big part of being an artist is learning to live with criticism in whatever form it takes.

Sometimes I think it’s easier to deal with trolls and people spilling hate than chilling silence. It’s discouraging. I’m not creating music anymore, but I’ve written enough blog posts and produced enough podcasts to sympathize.

I’ve produced THE podcast episode. You know, the one I thought would forever alter my destiny. The content that would finally catapult me from the depths of darkness to meteoric heights! In fact, I’ve had that feeling multiple times. Over and over again. Only to be disappointed over and over again. Here’s how I deal with apathetic silence.

Have a support system

Let’s face it, banging your head against the wall hurts! Sometimes you need someone to hand you an aspirin.

There are many ways for someone to lift you up after a defeating YouTube post. Your Mom can tell you you’re special, your spouse can give you a reassuring hug or a friend can tell you to keep your chin up. While these are all great and make me feel better, I know they aren’t real. I desire outside perspective.

That’s why I’m a big believer in having a coach. Over the years I’ve had many coaches for many different purposes. I’ve had a trainer to help me get in better shape. I’ve had a sales coach to help me learn cold calling. I’ve had a marketing coach to help me better spread my message. But at the core of all of them I really desired two things – Motivation & Accountability.

The hardest person to motivate is yourself. It’s much easier to lift up a friend or to see what’s wrong with your spouse’s situation than to look in the mirror and fix that! I really need help here. And when things don’t seem to be going my way it gets harder and harder to keep moving forward. My coach is there to dust me off and send me back in the game. He’s also there to make sure I produce my next piece of content even though I’d rather do anything else. Left to my own devices I might just blow it off. But I don’t like telling someone I didn’t do what I promised.

If you don’t want to spend money on your own personal coach, start a peer group. Some people call them masterminds or roundtables. Whatever you call it, it’s good to find fellow artists with the same struggles. I’ve been in an informal marketing group for four years. We get together about once a month to help each other overcome our struggles and to share what we’ve learned about marketing. It’s a great way to keep the demons from your door!

Remember Your ‘Why’

When things get low I return to why I want to do this in the first place. For myself when I release a new post to the sound of one hand clapping I remember I have a larger goal than one post. In order to create a shift in music marketing and change the fundamental attitudes about music and its value in today’s world, it’s going to take more than one well-crafted blog post.

For most musicians I know riches and fame are not on the top of their list. Usually I hear things like ‘I need to create’ or ‘I do it for me.’ Whatever ‘why’ means to you, go back to the beginning and keep a realistic perspective about your not-so-well-received YouTube video. Your ‘why’ should move you forward and keep you from obsessing about the apathetic silence.

After all, your ‘why’ is the reason you get out of bed in the morning. It transcends money and fame. It’s your purpose for being. If you’re in touch with your ‘why’ then a few bumps in the road shouldn’t get you down.

Do Some Soul Searching

This last one might be a little hard to hear. But here it goes…

Sometimes you need to ask yourself if there’s a reason no one’s responding and sharing your YouTube video. Maybe it sucks… ow.

Recently I got to experience this with a four minute video I made to explain the purpose of Only Sky Artist. I released it to worse than silence. I heard groans. I produced the video and then sent it out to some of my trusted mastermind friends. The responses I got back were not encouraging. Almost everyone said it sucked.

Well, they were much more polite, but they all meant the same thing. I took in all the criticism and then asked myself if they were right. And I had to agree. My video didn’t live up to my standards. It was a sub-par effort that wasn’t doing my brand any favors. Ouch, ouch, ouch!

Even though it’s pretty bad (think Plan 9 From Outer Space bad) I’ve decided to take one for the team and leave it up for you to see as an example of what happens when you get too close to a creative project. I’m sure you will agree it doesn’t exude professionalism.

Here’s a link if you’re feeling brave. 🙂  Sorry. I took it down since I wrote this.

While the feedback I received was certainly a blow to my ego, I learned that my friends hold me to a higher standard than I sometimes hold myself. (See point number one again) And that’s a good thing! By objectively reexamining my creative output I had to admit it wasn’t my finest work. Now I know what to do next time to improve my YouTube views and avoid the apathetic silence.

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below….

What have you learned from criticism? What keeps driving you to create music?